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Episode 31: Calin Saft: Accept Change as a Way of Life

A couple of weeks ago, I started a new series in which I want to share with you the most common problems and difficulties that guys that I work with are facing and how to get past those challenges.

This week’s challenge is accepting Change as a Way of Life.
To begin the path of personal growth, let go of old habits, unnecessary “junk” and false beliefs. Move forward for you do not need to ever look back. What lies ahead is far better than what has held you back. The exact things that got you where you are in your life right now are holding you back from the getting to the next level of achievement. Simply put, what got you here, won’t get you there.

Resistance to change is the biggest obstacle to personal growth.
You have probably developed a great deal of will power. However, the emphasis needs to shift slightly to self-discipline and insight. Spend your time getting to know yourself and understanding your own psychological issues. Then try understanding the true and complex motives of others. This is your path to fulfillment.

Beware of simple formulas for success and avoid the mirage of the abundance mindset. Abundance is such a buzz word nowadays and although there is nothing wrong with having abundance in your life, I do believe something is off if you notice that your soul searches for the pleasures of a routine life spent in luxury and that without material well-being you feel threatened and insecure. If you are not self-aware, these feelings and thoughts will sneak up on you.

Acquire useful possessions and do not lust after more than what you need. Bond with those closest to you and take on new value systems informed by what you learn from them.

Psychological transformation is an important theme in your life; own the process consciously.
You may have a hang up about power and even do foolish things with money to try to get power, such as gamble or spend lavishly.  If you do not build a good character, you may dream of marrying into money, solving your problems through an inheritance or lottery win, or even find yourself in trouble with the law.  Other weaknesses can include throwing money and energy away on undeserving people or causes and counting on others to do the work that is yours.

Learn to welcome change as a way of life – or risk finding yourself in one crisis after another. Once you do start to ride the waves you’ll experience a greater joy than most people can imagine.

In this process you may be stripped of all that you thought was dear to you.

Be forewarned that resistance will be very costly.

If you give it up willingly, you will receive in exchange great fulfillment and happiness.

It’s your choice. Hold your routines and possessions with an open hand of appreciation for the fleeting nature of beauty and life or clench them with a tight fist of fear.

Cooperate and the transformation may be gentle and fulfilling, so that you will find a great peace from living in harmony with your soul.

Embrace life’s constant changes, for as Schulman says “out of the symbolic death of all he ever possessed will come his new life.”

What you have that others do not is great determination. This may help you in times of great adversity if you use it wisely.

All right guys, these are the thoughts that I wanted to share with you today. If you like this episode, please share it with a friend, subscribe on iTunes and leave a helpful review. I’m always interested to hear from you so please share your thoughts in the comments section.

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